Friday, July 22, 2005

The Evolution of Marriage

One thing that makes me wonder constantly is why and how are men and women different. Why do women like to make fun of men and vice versa? Don't they need each other to get to a common goal? Why do many women believe that Orthodoxy lowers women and make them into slaves? I have no explanation for it. It seems illogical to me. Even on an emotional level. Marriage in my short opinion, is a male and female creating and evolving a friendship to create a spiritual entity called marriage. It is something divine. Beyond nature. It is a deep love and coming to understand each other intimately to grow into a human. Beyond instinct and desire. To become a single machine to do the bidding of God. Children are the manifestation of this goal. A child combines both parents and God. When it grows it is taught to do goodness and kindness so the new entity will come close as possible to God. Love must be constantly work on. A man should not be stingy with his money. He should always give money to his wife with a smile. A wife should always try to find ways to cheer up her husband. She is not required to study torah. She will not be asked did you do your business honestly or did you set aside time for learning. She will be asked though, "Did you make your husband happy?" "Do you know what his favorite foods are?" A man will be asked did you make your wife happy by buying her jewelry and nice clothes. This is what Orthodoxy advocates, is there anyone who can suggest something better?

7 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sounds like you enjoyed the shir last night by R' Moshe Meyer Weiss on L'olam Y'hu Adom-

1st,foremost and ALWAYS BE A MENCH!

12:49 AM  
Blogger EN said...

;-) You got that right. ;-)

12:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

(Thanks for telling me about them- I never knew they were for women too...)

2:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so women don't need to bother their pretty little heads with learning - they just need to make sure they know what food you like and to accept gifts of jewellery and dresses
what a load of nonsense

5:03 AM  
Blogger EN said...

anon- That was not my point. My point was that the purpose of women in this world is to do good deeds. They are a helper. To men,women,children or even to themselves. People have roles. Different ones. Married not married, it doesn't matter. Women have that capability to bring a smile to someone's face. Men don't.

12:04 PM  
Anonymous sharona said...

I read that man and woman are two components of one soul. The female component is compassionate, and male component is agressive. That doesn't mean though that they are only one way or another. It means that she is more compassionate and he is more agressive.
And they both give what they have to offer this world and each other.

12:37 PM  
Blogger EN said...

Sharona-I totally agree.

12:47 PM  

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