Sensitivity in Speech

This afternoon I attended the annual Chofetz Chaim Heritage Video. Rabbi Raymond Beyda and Rabbi Yissachor Frand spoke about Ona'as devarim, hurtful words. R' Beyda spoke about how to use word to build up people and to inspire people and mentioned a story of a 19 year old girl who was a councelor in camp and was thrown out of a moving bus. During the shiva the mother was unconsoled. She was so upset how such a thing could happen to her obediant and helpful daughter. Until a woman came and told her she had a dream of a very holy neshama that was showed all a beautiful mansion that was to be her reward, but there was one room that was locked. She asked why was it locked? The angel answered that it was reward for Kibud Av Ve'em, but since she was an orphan it was closed to her. She begged to go back down to earth and to be able to earn her reward. She was sent down for a short time 19 years. This woman turned to the mother and said this holy neshama is your daughter, and she had completed her mission and now she is reaping her reward. We can see how words can heal and raise broken spirits.
Rabbi Frand also mentioned a story of a big tzadik who signed his name with the term "Laluvas" the humble one, becasue his mother who ws wrongly accused of improper conduct couldn't get a good shidduch, so she davened to hashem that her children should be tzadikim and she invoked the pasuk, the humble spirit. the neshama is as sensitive as the eye. The eye get sensitive even by a particle of dust. So too the neshama.
May Hashem rebuild the temple in our day in the merit of speaking wisely and not hurting another person.